Question by lostmymind09: What is the best way to handle an ex’s new girlfriend?
My ex husband is dating my new husband’s ex girlfriend. That isn’t as much the problem as the fact that my new husband cheated on me with her. Just to place the icing on the cake, this woman will not stop talking in this area me (and my business) to the people we both know.
My ex and I have kids together and she even puts them in the midpoint when they are visiting with him for the weekend.
What is the best way to handle this besides “ignore it”? Because ignoring and/or fighting back does not work!
PS – My husband cheated on me with this woman while we were dating, not with we were married. (I know that doesn’t make it okay, just sought after as many of the facts on the table as possible.)
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Resolution by DKNY D
Its tough,……… I would not be in between.
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Cut her with a astute piece of schooner.
Just kidding, but if you do choose to do that, tape it and sell it.
Seriously though, if fighting back doesn’t work, then ignore it. Just smile, this ordinarily pisses them off =)
Um… I reflect you need to go to a larger town.
I’d sit down with her and tell her…
That besides making her a MISERABLE HUMAN BEING – talking TRASH goes both ways… Hark back her that SHE was the SLUT sleeping with a MARRIED MAN – and if her behavior persists – you’ll start pointing that out to her FAMILY – CHILDREN – the people SHE facility with.
Sometime – acting like a NUT is the only way do deal with people in the asylum.
LOL you chose these dudes……………your terrible
live with girl. Made take up knitting
Stab her in her evil eyeballs. j/k….sort of. Honestly. Smile and bear it. There’s no way to ignore such a horrible woman. Eventually she will find some other man to make miserable.
no one is this stupid
u gotta face this woman and talk to her calmly and decently.. i hope u two could get a clad talk in this area matters.. esp concerning the family. if all doesnt work out well, tell your ex hubby that he must stop considering the kids until he “fixes” his GF’s attitude hehehe
That’s a messed up circumstances to be in… Initially of all, I would have never place for myself or my family in that spot… I would leave them all in there small ring let them be miserable together…
Poor you, that’s a terrible circumstances to be in, If she is bringing the kids into it, i would tell your ex husband that she is no longer allowable to see your kids, and he can only have them when she isn’t there to poison them.
Well done you for not having slapped this woman silly, which is what she deserves, but don’t just let her walk all over you either, you need to fight back, and at least have it out with her, but make sure you know what you want to say and chose your words crafeully so that she has no comeback, and just shuts up and listens to you. Your husband needs to support you more too, so tell him that! don’t let him just get away with doing nothing, this woman is his ex so he knows her aswell. He can stick up for you
i would have a sit down with all of the caught up parties on neutral territory. this whole circle of loving is way to weird for my tastes, and there is nothing that would win over me that your husband wouldn’t cheat with her again. that notwithstanding though, tell all what your expectations are and that you want to be mature adults in this area this. with that, if she continues her behavior, than ignore her. she’s acting like this because she’s getting some kind of “payoff” from it. remove the payoff and the behavior isn’t as fun for her anymore.
It must matter more to you that she’s your Husband’s Ex than that she’s your Ex’s new main squeeze.
Nothings going to work. She’s going to take up again being a b**tch.
Don’t decrease yourself to being one as well.
Set a excellent example for your kids and just let them know when they’re being manipulated.
But I LOVE Wendy G’s resolution better.
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well firstable i would have kick ya husband out for cheating on u with his ex they must get back together if they cant let go of each other. and as same must your ex husband do the same.
and u must leave the kids out of those fights. and u force shouldnt let this woman in your house the father must pick up the kids or must come by alone it would be best for ya all
sounds as if she is jealous of u, and in some Competition with u.there isn’t much u cn do except maybe to try and make friends with her,or just don’t let her know your business.
If you choose to stay with the shark, then I say keep your friends accurate and your enemies closer. I would be open and honest with her in this area the circumstances with your kids and your personal affairs. She’s obviously jealous of you. Be honest with your ex in this area the circumstances too. Afterall, he still is your kids’ father so he must keep their best appeal in mind.
Well, if the equipment she is saying start to harm your childrens well being then you could get a restraining order against her. You could go away, as it seems the men you top out are not all that fantastic if they’re cheating on you,
For me ignoring it wouldnt be an option, I have a small fuse, mainly where my kids are concerned and I would probably hurt her if she brought my kids into it…what you say in this area me is one thing but kids are innocent and that is where the line would be crossed. Best way to get rid of her, take you kids and go far away….tell your ex its because of her and most men agreed the scale will rid themselves of a terrible woman to keep their kids accurate.
Stay focused on you. Women your battling w/ like to get your attention mainly if they feel your a threat. Which I’m sure she despises the fact ou have kids by her boyfriend. She sounds like a distress maker. If you hear her in succession her mouth don’t add fuel to the fire. She’s trying her toughest to get your attention! She resents the fact she can’t be you! She needs prayer!
Go on in this area your life! Pray for her.
The serenity prayers facility fantastic!
God accord me the serenity to accept the equipment I can not change. (your ex’s g/friends evil ways)
Courage to change the equipment I can & the wisdom to know the difference.
It comes in handy.
if she talks terrible in this area you, that’s her problem, not yours. it is her garbage so let her manage it. don’t take it. you don’t have to prove her incorrect in words. you will do it best in actions.
the problem is not her – it is your husband. but if you have forgiven the husband, why not her? it takes two to tango anyhow.
If your fighting to keep married is he worth it?
Don’t allocate her owing to the door of your house, keep your talk business like, if not look “Owing to” her as if she were Invisible, be careful of upsetting the family, warn your husband in this area flirting with her.
Your being used and abused, as the men in your life seem to have “Wife-Swop” games!
Apply to the courts to have your ex only see the family lacking her. You can also sue for defamation of reputation. Maybe a lawyers letter would shut her up.