So you are thought of getting back together with a long time apart. Can it work? Well that depends really on how much you both want it to and what caused the break down in the initially house. You are more likely to succeed if you have the backing of your friends and family.
Regularly we break up when we are childish, as we are both immature and just don’t know what we have; until we lose it. Other times we can kill off a relationship, because we relocate with our jobs or our families. Regularly the break up has nothing to do with the people caught up just the timing or interval is incorrect.
But sometimes there were specfic reasons why we broke up and if these reasons still exist, then you need to work out why you want to get back together. Nonexistence can make the heart grow fonder but be aware that memories get distorted and you could be remembering events that didn’t quite take house that way. Experts call this the “rose coloured glasses” effect.
But, if you are thought of getting back together with a long time apart, there must be a physical and emotional attraction between the two of you. Physical attraction is fantastic and this is what generally brings couples together initially. But unless it is accompanied or followed over time by an emotional connection, the physical stuff just isn’t enough to sustain a relationship.
Long term successful partnerships are based on mutual respect, like and commitment. If you miss out any of these three key ingredients your probability of spending your twilight being together diminish. I know that Hollywood films would have you believe that a fantastic romance is based on lust and physical attraction. You can be easily fooled into thought the man just has to sweep you off your feet and you will live happily ever with.
Unfortunately, real life isn’t like that and you will have certain trials to face as a couple. A couple who are deeply committed to each other, on every amount, is much more likely to survive the problems; real life throws at them.
Perhaps you two were together for a long time. Maybe you even had a family together before you tear up. If this is the case, you need to be sure that you are getting back together for the right reasons and not because your kids want you to. Just as a couple must never stay with each other solely for the sake of their family, nor must they get romantically caught up again for this wits.
Getting back together with a long time apart can be an exciting adventure. Just take equipment slowly and who knows, perhaps a marriage or remarriage may just be over the horizon.
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